Being Nice....
- Salkis Re
- Aug 3, 2020
- 1 min read
Being too accommodating is not the way to win friends nor influence people.
You don't want to have to beg people to give you things... Begging for sympathy or pity makes you feel like you've diminished in worth, and yet you do it out of desperation..
And you feel this way because you know you are placing yourself in a subordinate position when you are nice..
People respect what they earn, what they work for.. It gives them a sense of accomplishment and self worth..
If you are giving away your cookies and ice-cream, you are NOT creating a relationship built on self worth for yourself nor the person you are giving out free food, free money or free puwsy to...
Don't rob the man of feeling worthy by giving your compliance away for free..
Don't rob the woman of feeling secure and sense of status by allowing her to treat you like shyte!!
People DEPEND on women like us to define them, to heal them, to stroke their egos... But it doesn't have to be at the expense of your own dignity... You can be what people need without demolishing your worth and the fact is that people will desire you more when they cannot get anything they want.
Being Nice? Shiiiiiiiiiiiiit Let it go!
~Salkis Re
PSA ALERT! For those still struggling to commit to living life with logic and UGC philosophy. Please watch a new series on Netflix called Dirty John, true life crimes. May wisdom and self love follow you all the days of your life xxxUGC!!
I can certainly relate to this one ( big time) I was a huge people pleaser and could not understand why I was disrespected and treated poorly. I didn’t respect myself nor did I acknowledge my worth so why should a man value me. Men can smell weakness and empaths and target them to take advantage.
@Titra Hamilton #preachsis
Many years ago, a friend of mine told me, "The problem is that you are nice and tell the truth. Most people lie. You are also "a giver". People see you coming a mile away and will use you". Man, she was right. In my teens and twenties, I was the "Nice One", often dissatisfied, but too willing to compromise or hold back to keep the peace. Experience showed me that peace that way compromises me! I worked more, and got less than what I wanted and deserved. Young UGC ladies, listen to Salkis Re and learn. Learn and apply these lessons now. For the the mature UGC like me, keep Salkis Re on repeat so that you never forget.
I learned to enjoy life and not take these guys seriously just like Salkis re says all roads lead too!