Desires Rule!
- Salkis Re
- Oct 9, 2023
- 2 min read
Over the years, I've tried to convey a message to UGC about the futility in competition, jealousy and trying to be the best that a man has ever had.
Men's very imaginations are above our pay grade.
The things that make them curious and excited are not always (or at all) within the realm of what our physical stamina can bear, for their longings are largely deviant and abominably immoral too.
You are trying so hard to be attractive by definitions that have never considered your aesthetic as an option, and, as a result, you've been spinning the block in frustration over repetitively menial results.
My suggestion has always been to explore yourself to find your own lane, but the copycat within you resists research and experimentation when it's not for argumentative purposes.
You can't compete with the dark side of people!
There's no way to tussle and win against the immoral parts of our souls.
The dark side of ourselves has no friends,
needs no allies,
believes in nothing
and is unafraid of judgments and misperceptions from others: and this is why we toil at keeping it tucked away from view.
People are crazy out here.
So the question to ponder is: "How can we function within our own lunacy?"
There's no one perfect answer to that, but knowing that you are a bit off can help you regulate emotions and reel yourself in when you feel like you're becoming unhinged.
What I've found very useful is in the removing of the word perfection or the pursuit of it from our vocabulary and our hearts.
To stand alongside your imperfections takes boldness, strategy, emotional stability and intelligence to execute successfully.
You have to be an unapologetic badass to show up when everyone says you don't belong!
To demonstrate an air of entitlement while the world thinks you're nothing is about adopting a level of delusion akin to fanaticism!
You have to be crazier than other crazy people out here, the craziest one in the room in fact!!
And by crazy, I simply mean that you welcome wearing red when everybody's wearing blue. You are simply beating the hell out of your own drum!
You really have only 2 options here. You can either try to be like them and lose OR be more like YOU while setting rules to ensure that you are ALWAYS winning in your world!
Signed..
"An Ugly Girl"
~Salkis Re
I’ve gotta start beating the hell out of my own drum 🥁
Thank you for this. Your artist flair show in the way you set this post up as well as in the content. I think it’s mainly a matter of us going back to who we were before we learned we we seen as ugly with all its requisite limitations and rules about how we are “supposed to” feel and the behavior we acceptfrom including men. That’s that creative constructive energy we naturally had as little girls. That energy that leaps out from your art work for example Salkis. Or whatever is your main mode of expression - it doesn’t have to be artistic. Maybe it’s scientific or mathematical or analytical. We are not obligated to deal with people who h…
I love this🤩We have to let go of that word perfection. You either going be miserable trying to copy or set your own standards. I know it’s about that shadow work, reprogramming yourself, and telling the truth to yourself about what it is you really want. We are just being fearful. First thing i learned being here was stop being scared about want you really want💪🏿💪🏿💪🏿🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾 thank you Salkis Re for this read and UGC. And I can not stop laughing at that sock behind dresser picture!!! Omg😆😆😆😆🤣
Can you give us a guide on how to research/experiment with who we want to become? It’s not as simple as switching you style up or is it. I think it’s deeper than that but not sure how to  execute.
I think I’m getting to this point because trying to be like others is exhausting. Even when you do meet their standards, people are never satisfied. There’s always more they want you to do. It’s not worth it. Tbh I wonder if I actually wanted to be like them or felt I had to be in order to be valued. I don’t think I wanted to be them but I wanted what came with what I felt being them entailed.